Sunday, February 20, 2011

A New Chord

All that old people need is our love and attention. I've learnt this from the many angels whose company I have enjoyed since the day I learnt what love is all about.
When we're young , love doesn't mean boyfriends or girlfriends, at that time , love means our parents, our grandparents, our brothers and sisters and our friends.
Today I don't have any of my grandparents with me, but with time I also learnt that genuine feelings get transferred from one to another, without letting go of any. As I entered the marital chord, I did not know that it would bring with it many other relationships....the most amazing one being that of a grandmother.
I've always had this instant affection for old people, since they remind me of my beloved grandparents ...the other day amma, my grandmother-in -law, was telling me about her varied trips to the different parts of the world, as her husband served in the Indian foreign services, she told me about an incident when an Indian relative came to meet her abroad, I don't remember the country she mentioned, but I do remember the incident ..He came to visit her with a bag full of Indian grapes. When he passed one of the streets, he saw several carts full of grapes. As he was watching the explicit sight, to his surprise , one of the cart owners, picked up a bunch of grapes and gave them to the donkey tied to the cart.....When he reached home to told amma,"I feel like a fool to get grapes for you, all the way from India, In this country even the donkeys feed on grapes!!"(yahan to gadhe bhi angur khate hain) .
Amma, my grandmother-in -law, narrates several such stories when I sit with her......As a youth she enjoyed life to the fullest, married at a Young age , her husband was her constant companion and a real gentleman for sure. He was friends with nana, but at that time none of them knew that their families would be tied with a beautiful bond through their grandchildren....As I mentioned goes in circles, it's who we are and the imprints we leave is what makes us a wonderful human.Those people who have grandparents, I would say treat them like the most precious gift that you have, they're indeed a blessing, now and grandparents gave way to a bond that I would cherish forever!


  1. It is nicely written.The role of grandchildren like you is no less important in deepening the bond of love with grand parents.You have always been the favourite grand daughter of your nana about whom you had written so much.He was a blessed man indeed to have had one like you.

  2. Hey, you're back after quite a while! Your posts are full of love and emotions, it's wonderful to drop in. Reminds us how important relationships are, with your bond with grandparents so deep. Wishing you all the very best!

  3. Sana,

    Very good post. Unfortunately I do not have any personal experience of Grandparents from either side. But I take your word for it.

  4. Wonderful post Sana. Missed reading your write-ups all this while. I know it how feels to have grandparents around. In my case, I learnt how important they're only when my grandmother wasn't around for six months. I have confessed many times that she is not my grandmother but my soul itself. In the absence of grandparents, I know how kids end up growing. My cousin brother doesn't know one bit of Tamil though we talk Tamil at home. I remember how my grandparents ensured we spoke Tamil by saying we gossiped about them if we spoke in English.

  5. Nice post Sana:)

    I have the same feeling when i meet grand people! !

  6. You are right about love and how it affects us in later years. Unfortunately I only knew my grandfather for a short time and my grandmothers had all passed away. You are right about old people needing love.

  7. You hadn't posted for quite some time and what do I see after I log into my account after what it seems like ages...
    Grandparents are treasure houses of wonderful stories, wisdom and love. You are lucky to have a grandmother in your husband's home :)

  8. Very nice! I have lived my fifteen years of married life with my mother in law until her demise last september. My daugther was so attached to her..! I remember the days that grandmother and grand daugther used to sit together having their parallel conversations- both talking and wanting to talk together...! Grand parents are treasure who are slowly moving out of our lives in this world of nuclear families.

  9. Sana...wonderful post. Your is so nice. I enjoyed your post thoroughly.


  10. Namaste....
    I have grown up with the eldererly and they are no different that the young, they want to be wanted, needed, loved, understood and accepted.

    Nice post.
    peace and blessings.